Softness After the Shatter: What Awakening Really Asks of Us
- queeniva89
- Jan 14
- 1 min read
Awakening is often portrayed as arrival — a moment where everything finally makes sense.But for many, the first truth of awakening is not clarity. It is loss.
Loss of the self that once felt safe.Loss of beliefs that once organized the world.Loss of certainty, rhythm, and identity.
Clarity does not always bring relief. Sometimes it brings grief — a quiet mourning for the version of you that did their best with what they knew.
This is where gentleness becomes essential.Not as indulgence. As survival.
The nervous system does not instantly adapt to truth. It trembles. It pauses. It asks for time. Integration is the slow work of teaching the body what the mind has already seen.
Softness after the shatter is not retreat. It is recalibration.
You are not meant to rebuild yourself immediately. You are meant to rest inside the awareness until it becomes inhabitable.
Some awakenings feel like loss before they feel like light — and that does not make them incomplete. It makes them real.
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